It’s been over 10 months since the world was thrown into a global pandemic the likes of which we haven’t seen in over a century. Two million people have died as fear continues to rage through our society, and a cough in a public place can earn you a dirty look. But, along with the obvious pandemic that has dominated so much of our lives- the one with masks and vaccines and ventilators and politics- there is another pandemic destroying our country and our world, although much more subtly- the pandemic of loneliness. Why is being with other people such...
Is Forgiveness Always Good?
The English poet Alexander Pope once wrote, “To err is human, to forgive, divine.” Indeed, forgiveness is an indispensable part of living a healthy emotional and spiritual life. So important, in fact, that when Jesus was teaching his followers how to pray, he instructed them to ask God to forgive them in the same way they forgive others. Let that sink in for a moment. Jesus said to ask for God’s forgiveness in the same way that you give it. He actually went on to say that if you refuse to forgive others, you will not be forgiven yourself. What...
The Reluctant Caregiver
My name is Lida Caraway and I am one the therapists at that The Shepherd’s Staff Counseling Center. As I attempt to carry on my normal life as a therapist and wife and mom and person in the world, my eighty-seven-year-old father lives with me and seems to encroach on that normality at every given moment. I continue to be struck by how many of my clients are in somewhat of the same situation; care-taking for a family member in some capacity that significantly effects them. I have found that voicing some of my frustrations through humor and writing have...
Just Be
“The LORD said, ‘Go out and stand on the mountain in the presence of the LORD, for the LORD is about to pass by.’ Then a great and powerful wind tore the mountains apart and shattered the rocks before the LORD, but the LORD was not in the wind. After the wind there was an earthquake, but the LORD was not in the earthquake. After the earthquake came a fire, but the LORD was not in the fire. And after the fire came a gentle whisper.” 1 Kings 19:11-12 I recently read an article about the importance of a quiet...
Suicide and Generation X
Why are so many people of my generation killing themselves? I began writing this blog in May after hearing about the death of Chris Cornell and did not finish before learning that another high-profile musician from my era, Chester Bennington, tragically took his own life this past weekend. Some have speculated that Generation X, being a kind of “sandwich generation,” has had a singular difficulty as the middle child between the vaunted Baby Boomers and the younger Millennials, both of which are larger in number and garner more attention, for better and for worse. Indeed, there’s not much that’s said...
Five Ways To Prepare Your Toddler
Welcome back to our series on toddlerhood. Today’s blog will focus on five ways to PREPARE our little ones for their lives ahead. If you missed any of the previous blogs on toddlerhood, you can find them here: Five Ways To Connect With Your Toddler Five Ways To Correct Your Toddler Five Ways To Protect Your Toddler As parents who love our kids and want them to thrive, we obviously want to give them the emotional tools they need to do so. Here are five things we can do to help PREPARE them: 1. BE RESPONSIVE WHEN THEY ARE UPSET....
Five Ways To Protect Your Toddler
I hope you are finding this series of toddlerhood blogs helpful. In previous blogs we have covered the importance of CONNECTING with your toddler, as well as a few ways to CORRECT some of their behaviors. If you are new to this series, you can find those blogs with the following links: Five Ways To Connect With Your Toddler Five Ways to Correct Your Toddler Today’s topic explores five ways to PROTECT your toddler. When we think of protection, our minds understandably go to the ways our toddlers are most vulnerable. Cars, big kids, bullies, and especially predators… those are...
Five Ways To Correct Your Toddler
Today’s topic is five ways to CORRECT your toddler. If you have not yet seen part one of this series, I’d recommend checking it out before moving on. It addresses how to build CONNECTION with our little ones, which gives us a lot more cred with them in the more difficult moments. You can find part one here. When thinking about correcting certain toddler behaviors, it is important to remember two guiding principles: 1. Love is a stronger motivator than fear, so “connect before you correct.” 2. Our modeling of appropriate behaviors is much more effective than any other...
Five Ways To Connect With Your Toddler
If you’re in the midst of parenting a toddler, I salute you. It’s not an easy job, and there’s definitely no guide book or summer break. If you’re parenting more than one toddler, I empathize with your plight and I pray for your sanity and your sleep! We all come to the role of parent from a variety of places. Sometimes it is joyful. Sometimes it is excruciating. Sometimes it is the most wonderful thing we can imagine, and sometimes we just need a break. And we almost always have questions about how in the world we’re supposed to do...
An Open Letter to Teenage Guys About Sexting
Dear guys, Just so you know, this might get a bit uncomfortable. I know I only have a few minutes of your time, so I’m going to cut to the chase. Quit asking for nude pics. I’m sure it seems harmless to you. After all, if the girl sends them to you it’s consensual, right? And, I get it, all things sexual make you feel stronger, more like a man with stories to tell, bragging rights, and a reputation. I’m sure when you ask for those pictures you mean no harm or ill intent. But… Just because you can’t see...